Title: Splitopia: Dispatches from Today’s Good Divorce and How to Part Well
Author: Wendy Paris
Publisher: Atria Books
Source: From the publisher
On Sale Date: March 15, 2016
When my husband and I announced our intention to split, I was surprised by the doom-and-gloom forecasts of some of our friends. I set out to discover the truth about today’s divorce, and to separate the myths from the facts. The resulting book, Splitopia challenges the negative assumptions and biased reporting about divorce. It shows how to get through this tough transition, protect everyone involved, and find yourself stable and happy on the other side.
Divorce remains hard, but while there are unavoidable challenges, there are also veryavoidable pains. It’s time to shuck off the judgment and misinformation and recognize that we have far more control than we may realize over our attitude, our actions and the type of legal help we seek.
We can create:
• A cooperative un-marrying or ongoing fights.
• Happy, healthy children or kids sucked under by conflict.
• A fair separation agreement and parenting plan or hundreds of thousands of dollars wasted on a destructive legal battle.
Splitopia proposes an updated, practical, empowering mindset about divorce, and provides concrete steps to support ourselves and our families during what may be the most difficult time in our lives. It shares the encouraging conclusions of hundreds of studies on child development, resilience after loss, growth, happiness, savoring, and more. It also showcases former couples in happy, healthy, post-married families, and tracks my own separation-to-divorce.
Two million people divorce in the United States each year, and the numbers are growing around the world. Three-quarters of Americans are part of a step-family. Yes, we should work hard at marriage. But when marriage ends, we also need to work hard to have a good divorce.
I was asked to review this book by a good friend and having been through divorce and remarriage I was able to immerse myself into the book with an “experienced” eye. Divorce is a tough road regardless of how amicable the parties are, especially when there are children involved. This book is an essential read for anyone going through or thinking about divorce. What a refreshing take on a subject that is often spoken about in the negative and allows you to take a step back and see things holistically.
Splitopia helps take you down the road to healing and opens the reader up to great resolutions that may take some work but will help to minimize the pain and hurt for both the couple and any children involved.
Wendy Paris engages the reader with a rare combination of research and personal stories to both explain and validate her theories on how to have a “good” divorce. I would recommend this book to people going through or even those that have been through divorce for some time. This is a great reference and even a good reminder that there are positive approaches to divorce.
Shelfie Bomb posts are written by guest reviewer J.M. Thank you to Simon & Schuster Canada for providing a review copy of Splitopia for review.